UNDERSTANDING
YOUR KIDS.
Neurodivergent brains run different operating systems. The standard parenting moves can backfire in ways nobody warned you about.
31 free wiki pages for the years nobody prepared you for. ADHD, autism, RSD, FASD. Meltdowns that show their stage 20 minutes before the storm. IEPs you can actually use. Co-parenting agreements that survive disagreement. Medication decisions that hold up to a 2 AM panic.
Sourced from peer-reviewed work, the Survival Blueprint, and the 8 Magic Keys (Evensen and Lutke). Plain language. Step-by-step protocols. Built for the day the school just called.
PICK ONE.
Start with whichever situation is closest to today. Each page is free and self-contained.
Transition Protocol OS
10/5/2 minute warnings, triple-redundant: a spoken, a visual and a tactile cue before the transition.
Read → 02.02Meltdown Early-Warning System
Four stages of an ND meltdown. Catch it in Stage 1.
Read → 02.03The 5-Task Reframe
"Get ready for bed" is five tasks. The micro-command fix.
Read → 02.04Validate-Then-Redirect OS
Order matters. Reverse it and you produce escalation. SB Ch. 1+6.
Read → 02.05Co-Parent Alignment Meeting
30 minutes a month. Six items. Prevent slow drift into misalignment.
Read → 02.06School Advocacy Letter OS
The accommodation request schools can't ignore. A written, dated request and a paper trail.
Read → 02.07Medication Decision Framework
Eight questions for the prescriber. Thirty-day measurable trial framework.
Read → 02.08RSD Recognition OS
Ten-sign checklist. Not a formal diagnosis; how common it is has not been measured.
Read → 02.09RSD De-Escalation OS
Don't argue with the emotion. The 6-step First Aid Protocol.
Read → 02.10The 8 Magic Keys (FASD)
The foundational FASD framework. Environment compensates for the brain.
Read → 02.11The Five Core Deficits (ADHD)
Not lazy, not defiant. Five executive-function deficits, and a ramp for each.
Read → 02.12The Interest-Based Nervous System
The ADHD brain runs on interest, not importance. Five activation levers.
Read → 02.1312 Demand → Declarative Swaps
A demand hits as a threat. Twelve swaps that slide past the alarm.
Read → 02.14What Is FASD
Mostly invisible, constantly misread. What FASD actually is.
Read → 02.15AuDHD: The Autism + ADHD Overlap
Autism + ADHD pull opposite ways. Hold both wirings at once. Roughly 1 in 3 autistic people also have ADHD.
Read → 02.16The Twice-Exceptional (2e) Profile
Gifted and disabled at once. 'Try harder' is the most damaging thing they hear.
Read → 02.17The Anxiety-ADHD Connection
About 1 in 5 ADHD kids (18.4% across 121 studies) have anxiety too. Treat one alone and the cycle won't break.
Read → 02.18Sleep & the ADHD Child
Sleep deprivation breaks every other strategy. Fix sleep first. The ADHD protocol.
Read → 02.19The Parent Nobody Checks On
Everyone checks on the kid. Nobody checks on you. A self-assessment.
Read → 02.20The Resentment Nobody Admits To
Resenting your child is a burnout signal, not a verdict. What the feeling means, and what to do with it.
Read → 02.21Repair After You Lose It
You yelled. Comfort now, words tomorrow. The next-day repair script for ND households.
Read → 02.22After-School Restraint Collapse
Angel at school, nightmare at home. The held load releases where it's safe. The 3:30 protocol.
Read → 02.23When You Have ADHD Too
Two under-regulated nervous systems can't co-regulate each other. The two-ADHD household system.
Read → 02.24Ages 8–12: The Foundation Window
The critical ADHD window. A launch pad sets up tomorrow morning tonight. Build it now.
Read → 02.25Ages 13–15: The High-Stakes Transition
A 14-year-old's body, an 11-year-old's impulse control. Protect the relationship.
Read → 02.26Ages 16–18: Launching
Adult expectations on a brain 2–3 years behind. Let the small fires burn.
Read → 02.27Secondary Disabilities (FASD)
FASD's worst outcomes come from how the world responds, not from the alcohol. Largely preventable.
Read → 02.28The External Brain
If the brain can't run executive function, build it into the environment. A prosthetic, not a crutch.
Read → 02.29The Invention of Childhood
Childhood as we know it is a recent construction. The parenting script was written, and you can edit it.
Read → 02.30Suggestibility and Confabulation (FASD)
A child with FASD can agree to a story they never lived, or fill a gap with detail they believe. Memory, not lying. How to ask.
Read → 02.31Visual Schedules and Routine Builders
The day lives on the wall, not in the child's memory. Photo cards, a visual timer, the same order every day, and a routine builder to print.
Read →THE SURVIVAL BLUEPRINT
101-page neurodivergent parenting guide. ADHD, RSD, meltdowns, IEPs, co-parenting, medication. Everything for the years nobody prepares you for. The longer treatment of what this wiki pillar covers.